From Fear To Love

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I felt fear and sometimes this feeling has been vague and imprecise but extremely uncomfortable and unpleasant. It starts with a feeling in the stomach, or perhaps earlier, in the upper chest. It’s a hassle and I realize it’s anxiety. But there is and I start to watch. I decided to learn the process and change it.

This happened to me a couple of days ago and I told myself, let go Jocelyne, apply what you teach, at the end of the day, what you teach is for you, what you write is your own learning.

All this happened with a trigger, a thought, a situation and started a mind-body level physiological effects. I drifted up to old, beliefs intertwined with others that until then were not fully aware.

I noticed that delving into feeling frightened me and allowing fully feel it, live it and let it be, after a while a new emotion that at first seemed to be there or was not evident arose; It was a feeling that was transformed in sadness, in wanting to mourn and despair and allowing the tears… The fear was disappearing completely. Had come a relief, it was a feeling of acceptance.

It was at that moment, a voice came to my surprise. Left inside me and said sweetly as I passed her warm imaginary hand off my shoulders, “Everything will be fine, everything is fine, was never otherwise you let catch your mind and beliefs but none of this is real, it’s something you’ve imagined, there is nothing can hurt you even when you believe it “and then I calmed down and felt peace. I breathed deeply relieved.

The fears come from films and these films do we come from beliefs that we do not wish for the world to come true. Images arise from fear and we want to avoid. All this happens to us without our consent; are not even aware of what triggers it or the process in which we are immersed. Neither do we know what the root of these beliefs but live as a real possibility and fear takes possession of us.

To defeat our fears and transform them we have:

1) Feeling completely accept and allow them.

2) We must ask What should I be thinking to feel that fear? What would happen if it really happened? What would happen to me if my belief is real? What thoughts would replace these beliefs? (You can write if it makes you easier).

3) Contact your belief, look at her and apropiate it, breathe deeply. Feel how you created your belief. It’s yours.

4) By knowing your deepest belief, you can change, you can loose it, let it go and send it love. Back to breathe deeply and feel the love. Welcomes the opportunity that was manifested to undo it and say thanks, I Love You. Proceed to allow it to be replaced by thoughts of love.

5) Recognizes that it is only a belief, it is not true, is an illusion, that thou hast created and no longer think more on it.

The fear quickly evaporates.

Thoughts of fear appear when we move away from living in the present; this can not help because our mind is very bouncy. But we can observe and monitor the process, this allows us to be more in the now.

We have to allow the process of living our fears, anxieties and fears to discover the beliefs that lie hidden and make our making them light to change them and heal them. If we do not allow this to us and what we do instead, is to resist and avoid reacting, fleeing or avoiding us, they will not disappear. What they do is be increasingly often in the form of anxieties, phobias and / or panic attacks.

If your fear is very strong, let it be, accept it and embrace it, maybe it’s the door to your awakening. Do not run from it.

Fears are alarms that are not aligned with our true selves and we must pay attention to correct.

There is something that is worth mentioning is that love is the miracle pill that healthy fear. Every thought of fear has its antidote. Fear is an illusion based on separation and death. None of this is real. We are immortal, the body is our vehicle in this reality, but there are many other realities that can access, even in this life changing our vibration.

Release beliefs is changing our vibrational frequency tuning in to a new reality. Love is the passage to the stars.

You can help dissolve your beliefs repeating to yourself, thank you, I love you, or ask, What is it about me that I am choosing to feel this feeling? Or what’s in me that I chose to believe this? And then let it go.

You are the master and your mind is your servant, not the reverse.

I love you

Jocelyne Ramniceanu

Transforming Fear into Love

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Almost all our reactions come from our beliefs based on fear when they don’t emerge from the inconditional love.

Jealosy, envy, anguish, sadness, etc, are such unpleasant feelings that we usually avoid to feel them. We deny them, simulate them or we react violently to these energy manifestations. Our way to react is by responding to the outside, by putting out the cause of our unrest. We seldom look inside.

We always find someone to blame for our feelings. We always look at the circumstances as a product of bad luck or we just feel victims of situations or someone. Never or rarely we look for the cause within ourselves. Also, in spite we already know that, we forget we are creators of our reality, our experiences, and our perception of the world.

When we constantly change of couple, when we don’t find a good couple, or our couple cheats on us; when money is scarce, when we don’t find the ideal job, we look at that and we wonder: What am I doing wrong? In what have I failed? Why do these things happen to me? Then we begin to feel sorry for ourselves, imperfect, undeserving, with little worth and filled with bad luck. The right question we must ask is, “What is in me that is creating this situation? Or we can just simply say “I’m sorry, forgive me for what is in me that creates this situaiton. This way of asking makes us remember that “It’s me and only me the one who creates my reality just as it is”. If there are aspects in my life that don’t work well, it is because I have beliefs about me and the world that make my reality to manifest as it shows although I’m not aware of them.
Before we arrived to the world, we already knew we were perfect. We were the eternal manifestation of the Creation. As creations we were conceived frmo the very substance of God. Then, when entering in the frequency of fear and disfunction that characterize our world, this life, we have forgotten everything, to feel immerse in a hostile environment no matter whether we grew up in a happy and loving family or not.

In that very same moment, when we were tiny, the first beliefs about this life were created. In a small child who found difficult to obtain love, or under conditions; in a time when it was necessary to be worthy in order to be able to be loved. It was when the first beliefs on difficulties to obtain love appeared. Then, from that fact the belief of not having enough appeared: That fighting was necessary to accomplish things and that it was necessary to be worthy. In that moment the wrong belief that feeling love was the same to feel pain might have been created too.

Then we grew up and we developed as adults. Our intelect has been formed and our life as a mature person has become the result of that experience. However, that little inner child never left. He or she never grew up nor changed at all. He or she continues there, although we have forgotten about him or her, or we believe that we have overcome everything.

Over and over the situations of life will reflect those early decisions, those conclusions, those beliefs, because we have them in our inner child. That wounded and abandoned inner child in need for love will walk with us. Over and over something frome the outside will aim at those wounds unhealed yet. Those wounds will continue there until we pay attention to our inner child.

Grief, sadness, anger, impotence: Everything we feel can be transformed now by not trying to avoid what we feel, by no trying to hide our feelings, but by feeling everything what is and loving the manifestations of our emotions just as they are.
With no judgments hold that little boy or girl that inhabits within yourself. Tell him or her mentally that it is ok to feel what he or she is feeling. Tell him or her that is it right to feel and hold yourself imaginatively. Feel all those emotions and tell that little child within yourself that from now on there is no need to feel lonely and without love, because you’re already there to give that love to him or her.
Accept your feelings. Feel to the fullest what is in you. Do not resist to them and love them. Paradojically, when you choose the transformation NOW with acceptance and love, you automatically transform your past and your future.
You can only transform fear and any emotion in the moment you feel it by sending love. You are love, you are perfect.

I love you.
Jocelyne Ramniceanu

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Dependence, Attachment, Love

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In a workshop I gave recently, we superficially discussed on attachment in relations. Now I want to tell you more on this regard. That day a friend mentioned that “love hurts”. “Love doesn’t hurt. Addiction does. Love is free”, I replied.

Attachment is not love. It’s true we want to share more time with the object of our affection, but love is freedom too. Love is being happy of our beloved one’s happiness in spite of not being with us. We feel glad that he or she are not needy beings and so aren’t we.

A needy person is a someone who looks outside everything he or she can find within, yet ignores how to do it. A needy person usually seeks to fill an internal void.

Let’s not confuse love with attachment. Love can transform in a commitment for living together, for sharing things in common, sharing joint projects… there can be a fellowship and therefore the mutual commitment becomes an accompaniment if desired and consensual. Love accepts each person as he or she is. Bonds are decisions that are not always related to love. If you don’t give to yourself the love you give to the other, then that love is not real.

Attachment is based on selfish beliefs more related to needing. Attachment and dependence are more similar to slavery than love. We stop being free by choice and intend to take freedom from the other. We are responsible for our addiction and dependence situations. But as well as we created them, we can change them too.

Attachment and dependence are more linked to domain, oppression, subjugation, and the yoke. It is not based on trust but on fear. When we depend on someone we live with fear.

Attachment is rooted in our fear of loneliness, to beliefs of no merit and worthlessness. Love springs from the love to oneself. It’s the only way to love others. If you have love in your heart, you will find all hearts full of love

Attachment and dependence are healed through love for oneself. If that love is not accomplished because we do not feel it, nor we not value ourselves, we must then begin to heal our inner child. There is where our wounds of abandonment, loneliness, abuse, as well as all our memories of being lovable, and valuable lie.
There’s no need to change of partner. What you need to change is your attitude, your decisions and especially you need to love yourself. The place to correct is not out. It is through you that the change in your life will occur. Start loving your inner child, to pamper and provide security to it.

Remember that whatever is out is just a reflection of yourself, your beliefs. You create and attract whatever that is within yourself.

The one who needs to change is you. You’re the cause. The world and your relations will be the effect. Therefore, they will be transformed too. Now, change the concept you have of yourself with no expectations and you will experience miracles.

Don’t be afraid of change. Change is an automatic function of existence. There’s nothing to do to avoid change. Adaptation to change and detachment go together. Resisting will only bring suffering instead. Welcome change with trust and everything will go just fine.

You’re the carterpillar to become a butterfly. Do like her: Let go of all detachment to welcome the new.

If you give yourself as much love as the love you expect from the outside you will stop feeling dependent and therefore let go of any addiction and dependence.

The water purifies by flowing.

I love you.
Jocelyne Ramniceanu

English Version: María Eugenia Acero Colomine.

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Thoughts are like clouds

We spend our lives complicating ourselves, suffering and worrying, when we could relax and give ourselves a little peace. If we pay attention to our thoughts and reactions that keep us distracted from ourselves, we will notice how our mind jumps from one situation to the next to avoid being in silence. We search for a way to fill up our time being spectators, actors or reactors of the outside world avoiding being by ourselves in silence. We fear that our anxiety thoughts will take over and frighten us further.

There’s a wonderful way of passing time and not allow unnerving thoughts to invade: say constantly to them Thank you, Thank you, Thank you.

God gave us a toy named thought; free will consists on how we use that toy. Thinking is an addiction, one of many we can have and it’s not that we don’t need it, but instead of performing its true function, which is being a tool that we can control, it’s come to control us.

We have to strong tendencies: one to identify ourselves with what we think and the other one to not be able to stop thinking. If our thoughts are to empower ourselves and they are charged with love, compassion or good will, then they come from our inspiration, they are thoughts of high vibration and we will be experimenting a reality filled with love.

But if the thoughts that invade us are unnerving, then that’s the reality that we will instantly experiment. Our organism starts to segregate substances that alert it and the world we perceive becomes a hostile word, distorted and accord with what we feel.

Thoughts, feelings and emotions paint our reality. That’s why we have to take awareness of the fact that it’s up to us what reality we live. The analogy would be the mirror, we don’t expect the mirror to smile at us first, this is impossible, and that’s how the world turns out to be, showing us how we are internally.

If we believe that thinking a lot about something will come up with a solution, we are wrong, the solution is not in our thoughts, solutions come when we quiet our mind.

If you want to create a different reality from the one you’re living and you don’t know how to stop thinking, cleanse your thoughts by repeating to yourself mentally THANK YOU and I LOVE YOU (like a mantra). This vanishes and frees any thought or situation you’re experiencing that is not tranquil. Automatically you’ll see how those things you were focusing on and that took your peace away, disappear.

When you try to avoid a negative thought, there’s a part of you that focuses on it, just embrace it and let it pass. By loving it you free yourself, by resisting it you perpetuate it.

You can chose between feeling better, thinking positive and loving. Creating ideas is thinking about the here and now, and then you’re inspired. Just new and creative thoughts, the thoughts that come from love, from inspiration and not from the past, arrive from a mind in calm and aligned.

When we welcome obstacles instead of resisting them, they smile at us and then they vanish. Thoughts are like clouds that travel the skies, if you stop them, there will be a storm. Just say Thank you and let them pass.

It’s not much what we need, but we believe we are missing things to be happy. Saint Francis said: I need little; and the little I need, I need it little.

I love you.

Jocelyne Ramniceanu

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Everything changes

Everything changes, even us. We find ourselves in continuous movement and transformation, today we are not the same as yesterday, and we are not as will be tomorrow, our cells change, even our thoughts are different every instant. Then, have you ever wondered why our memories are the same? Just our memories are fixed in space and time… And we allow ourselves to judge, analyze, have opinions basing them on something that no longer is… Give yourself time to question the validity of your interpretations, your beliefs, they are anchored in something that no longer exists and that might have never existed, but now they don’t work, let’s allow our memories to change as well, let them go for them to transform… Let our memories be what they are, just a step in the learning process of life, and let go anything that hooks us to them, with the past, so that we can be open every day, every instant… To continue creating freely new ways of thinking.

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Let’s abandon our judgments and opinions, the trap us in old behaviors. Let’s be disposed, flexible and open of heart so that we can be in harmony with the changes that ocurr every instant and to be able to continue freely the rhythm of life.

With love for you, my mirror

Jocelyne Ramniceanu

One night the Divinity spoke to me

One of those nights when I’m in lying in my bed before going to sleep, I usually stay still to listen to the Divinity speak. It whispered slowly and told me: “I’ll give you anything you want… if you don’t have it yet, is because you don’t allow it.”Image

After this I started reflecting: what am I doing that I don’t allow it? Am I not asking for it? Am I not asking to have a good relationship with my family, my friends and the people that accompany me? Am I not asking to have material abundance and love? Then it whispered again, this time a little louder…

“You don’t have to ask for what you’ve already got, because you’re not missing anything… You have to stop believing you don’t have it. I’ve given you everything, but you don’t see it because you’re observing with your physical eyes and not with your heart, your physical eyes can only show you what you think, when you learn to stare with your heart, you’ll see beyond appearances.”

I stayed restless trying to understand, and in the end I understood that I have to cleanse all of the beliefsthat limit me, I realized that it won’t be until I leave behind all my data and programming, my attitudes, my lack of love thoughts, that I will be able to see the world through my heart.

When I stop desiring to just accept, when I stop judging and holding on to this thought system where all I see is shortage; only then I’ll be able to have it all, because then I won’t be focusing on what I don’t have or on what’s missing from my life, I’ll let all the good that has been given t me come to light from within. I will allow it, leaving behind my beliefs to see again through my heart.

I Love You

Jocelyne Ramniceanu

The Play of Your Life

When you arrived to this world, you chose to be a certain way and asked the universe to give you what was needed for the experience you chose to have. The cause of all that happens to you is the person you have chosen to experience.

It all boils down to the part you have chosen to play in this existence, which is the cause and the effect of everything that you now manifest. At a given moment since the beginning of your existence, you have decided to experience a form of being and according to that your life proceeds without even being aware of your decisions.

Your experiences while you relate to others are the result of the experience you selected. The original cause of everything you live is the direct result of your choice even though the illusion allows you to believe that everything happens to you but that is not possible. You are the creator and if you choose to accept that you caused it all, it is the first step to transform the existence of the person you have decided to manifest.

This is the step towards understanding the first lesson which is this: you can manifest all that you wish to be and your relationships will act according to the play you wish to interpret.

You have the power to create. Your life is a big theater but you are not a mere character; you are the protagonist that chose a screenplay to portray. The title and the storyline of the play you are enacting is “YOUR LIFE”.

You can decide to change the play that you wish to represent, you can change the script and you can change the character since you are also the director.

Now you can realize that life is only about experiencing everything you have decided to interpret and that the author and the actor are the same person and that person is you. You were not voluntarily placed there as a character; it was you who decided. You are the cause and the universe merely granted you that which you asked of it. What happens to you is simply the effect of your choice.

Know your power and begin to accept that you are the creator, that you are made of the same substance that makes everything be and therefore everything that you decide, is.

When you were born, you were the product of a decision but that decision was made by you and you have forgotten that you are the author and the actor of the play that is your life. You were not placed there by chance, you create everything that happens to you and the responsibility is yours alone.

The decisions you make throughout your life have different levels. The small, every day decisions will not change your existence. These are merely the small waves that rock the boat. Global understanding alone, when you leave the world of illusion, is the one that impels you to move the wheel and it is then when you can change the course of your vessel.

If you do not like what you are experiencing, you must look inside and decide again but this requires you have a complete view; you must see yourself outside your part and feel that you are the actor, the author and the director of your own play. Only when you take on this responsibility will your life be able to change. That is to be 100% responsible. Nothing really happens by chance.

You can see the full picture and you can decide to manifest peace and love. You can decide again.

 

I love you.

 

Jocelyne Ramniceanu